Shifting Sands Tilting Floor

I have this image in my mind of standing on one of those moving floors at the carnival.  It is hard to get your balance because it is constantly shifting. The world is constantly shifting at the moment. It is unsettling. You think you have found your equilibrium, and then the next experience or conversation…

Keep Those Candles Lit – Just Make Sure They Are Not All White Ones

Like everyone else I have spoken to, I am saddened by the attack on Ukraine.  I also find it horrifying that Trump is repeatedly praising the ‘genius’ of Putin in his actions.  As I see the candle vigils, mass prayers and concern, there is one other topic that comes to my mind.  Racial bias that…

No Traction Lately and I Don’t Want to Always Be Safe

If I had a dime for the amount of times people have told me lately to ‘Be Safe’. I get it.  It’s a good time to ‘Be Safe’ but I also know the reason it makes me cringe.  With my personality, if I gave in to every time I wanted to ‘Be Safe’, I would…

You Can Be Strong and Still Not Have Your Shit Together

I’m struggling. Like so many of us right now, my days are hard. I manage to distract myself with work here and there, but the rest of the time I walk around feeling like I’ve been sucker punched alternating between anger at feeling alone and having to start over again at 52 and this great…

Are Books a Thing of the Past?

Somebody said this the other day. On a virtual call of course. And it made me so sad. And I said, no, no, no! But now, as I sit here, doing pretty much anything, to avoid actually reading a book, I’m beginning to wonder. I am an avid reader. Or at least I used to…

Build Your Better World

Do one small thing every single day towards being the person you want to be and building the world you want to build. If someone had told me nine years ago that I (along with my dear friend Ankit in India) would build and maintain a computer app used the world over to connect people…

Moving On: Separation and a New Life

Last month, I moved out.  After thirteen years of trying to make our marriage work, we called it a day.  It was not for lack of trying on either of our parts.   We had both pounded our heads on the wall over the years trying to create a peaceful, loving marriage. He thought it was…

A Bird’s Eye View of Where You Live

For the most part, I grew up in Plano, Texas.  The population was 72,000 when we moved there in 1977.  Now, thanks to Texas welcoming business arms, Plano has a population of almost 300,000.  When my partner wanted to move from Illinois after being out of work two and a half years, he suggested Plano. …

The State of Alabama

Yesterday, I listened to a woman here in Alabama say in ‘quotations’ as if she did not claim it, ‘as a white privileged woman’. This was in reference to the School district’s inability to put a new high school on this side of the mountain as it is ‘too white’.  Her reply was that we…

Mom Says Enough. And That She is Not Picking a Side. We Are a Circle.

I just got back from a weekend in the Smokey Mountains with my family.  We were at dinner the night before leaving, and at the table next to us, an older gentleman almost got into a physical fight with the restaurant owner over the waitresses not wearing their masks up. Things are getting very tense…